You probably read the title and thought, why would going down on a woman ever be painful?… but you’d be surprised that many things we don’t even think about can effect a woman’s vagina during cunnilingus.
There are plenty of techniques that men or women can use when performing oral sex on a woman to make it a pleasurable experience, such as the ones I discussed in Female Oral Sex: How To Eat A Box of Chocolates.
For the most part, sexual preferences vary based upon the individual, but vagina’s are sensitive body parts and there are certain precautionary things every person who is going to be performing cunnilingus should know before munching out.
- Beware of Your Beard. Some women think scruff is a sexy thing, but as sexy as it is, it can cause serious chafing, scratching and pain on the vagina if it is not groomed or even groomed too much causing stubble to irritate it. Be sure if you have a beard or rough facial hair, be considerate and don’t be afraid to ask your partner if it irritates her down there.
- No Need to Spit. Often times in pornography, which unfortunately sets a false example of what all people desire in bed, we see men and women spit on the vagina during oral sex to make a woman wet. The whole point of cunnilingus (female oral sex) is to make the vagina wet as a part of foreplay which often times leads to sexual intercourse but it is also pleasurable in itself. Think of it like this: more spit=less friction and feeling. The vagina is a very sensitive part of the body filled with many nerves endings. When the inner and outer labia are not yet wet, it feels things more intensely than it does when the vagina is completely lubricated. This is not to say that the vagina does not feel things when it is fully lubricated inside and out but there is definitely more sensitivity across the board when there is less saliva. Use your first strokes wisely kids.
- Be Careful of The Chin! Many people don’t think about using their chin during oral sex on a woman, but you would be surprised how wonderful your chin can be during cunnilingus. The vagina works in crazy ways, some require and enjoy more pressure than others, and for women who enjoy more clitoral pressure, using your chin can be just what the doctor ordered. Try placing your chin on and around the clitoris and gently rubbing your chin in circles to apply pressure and pleasure. But be careful, too much pressure can be uncomfortable and painful, especially if you have much facial hair. I often recommend that partners have a non-verbal signal to communicate when it is too much or you want more. For example: tell your partner to squeeze or tap your arm if the pressure you’re applying is too hard.
- Limit the Candy and Gum. Many people don’t realize that the things that they eat can effect their partner sexually. Some women have very sensitive vagina’s and are more prone to yeast infections and urinary tract infections. Chewing gum or eating sugary candy and spitting it out right before performing oral sex, can, although rare, have an effect on the vagina causing irritation. The overload of sugar in the vagina can also be responsible for causing yeast infections, which is why many people recommend steering clear of edible undies. Sure, they sound delicious until you’ve got a bakery in your pants. I once heard a story about a woman who was chewing cinnamon flavored gum, took it out right before performing oral sex on her partner and then when they proceeded to have intercourse, the woman was extremely irritated from the cinnamon in the gum. Gum can also get caught in pubic hair. Not a pretty sight, but I would not be surprised if that has happened to someone out there in this world. It may be a cheaper, not to mention sweeter alternative to waxing, but it definitely has a less desirable result.
- Cold Sores. It has been brought to my attention that many people do not understand that an oral cold sore commonly seen around the mouth(which is different from a canker sore) is actually Herpes and can be transmitted to your genital region. There are two strains of Herpes, herpes simplex virus-2 (HSV-2) or the herpes simplex virus-1 (HSV-1) which is commonly responsible for oral herpes. However, a person can have either simplex on their genitals or orally, it simply depends on the aggressiveness of the outbreak. It is so important to make sure you and your partner are cautious and aware of your body and mouth before anyone performs oral sex on you or vise versa. Many people get cold sores, and it is not always transmitted sexually, but just because it is in your system it does not necessarily mean you will give your partner genital herpes or oral herpes, however, it is a possibility if you’re developing or currently in the middle of an outbreak. If you are developing a cold sore or currently have one in or around your mouth it can be transmitted to the genital region of your partner. If you have questions or concerns about this information, please ask a doctor for more information as I am not an MD, also feel free to read here for more facts about it.
- My boyfriend has Herpes Virus 1. How can I avoid catching it and can you give me info on the virus? (heal-herpes.com)
- How soon after exposure to cold sore herpes (type 1) in your genital area, would you start to see symptoms? (heal-herpes.com)
- Ask An Educator: Oral Sex w/ Herpes (secretpleasuresblog.wordpress.com)
- How To Give Oral Sex (thesexuality.wordpress.com)
- Your Vagina Isn’t Just Too Big, Too Floppy, and Too Hairy – It’s Also Too Brown [Our Take On Jezebel Article] (thisistight.com)